EYES TELL ABOUT MEN

A man's eyes will tell you if he is looking for a brief fling or a long-term relationship, scientists say.

If he maintains eye contact for long periods, he is thinking of his date as a potential long-term partner. But if his gaze strays regularly from the face to the body, he is thinking of other - more short-term - things.

The study carried out by Tom Currie of Tokyo University found that faces were far more important than bodies if men were seeking a life partner, the Daily Mail reported Tuesday.

Psychologist Anthony Little of Stirling University, told the paper: "If you are looking for long-term relationships you are looking for a friendly, humorous, co-operative pleasant partner - information we all get from faces. "But when it comes to men and short-term relationships they are not so bothered about whether someone has a nice-looking face, the body becomes a bit more important. They shift their attention." 

The conclusions were drawn from a study of 260 volunteers, equally divided between men and women, who were asked to look at images of models from the opposite sex who were dressed only in their underwear.

 

They were then asked to rate each model's attractiveness for either a long-term relationship or a fling. They were first shown separate images of the models' bodies and faces, and asked to rate them individually before rating the complete pictures.

When looking for a long-term relationship, only 20 percent of men gave higher scores to pictures of the bodies than they did to the images of their faces. However, when asked to rate them for a short-term affair, 40 percent ranked the pictures of their bodies higher than those of their faces.

WAYS TO MAKE YOURSELF IRRESISTABLE TO HIM

The key to being irresistable to men is more about you and less about them.
It is about accentuating every one of your strengths both internally and externally and reveling in them.

So before we show you how to flirt, tease and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in the delicious power of being a woman.

1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What qualities will your perfect lover have?

How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as much detail as possible. Knowing what you want is the first step to having it.

2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door, take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most women out there. That will show and give you an edge.

3) Accentuate those positive qualities.

For example: If you have full shiny hair make the most of it. Let it flow down your shoulders. Play with it in front of the one you desire. Men have a fascination with hair.

If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fill in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give them even more sex appeal.
4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Look at him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that you are feeling, everything that you would like to do to him.

5)Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves without exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.

6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off.

7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier. Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth, silky soft skin.

Raghu Natrajan.

TIPS FOR DATING

These tips will help you to bring somebody significant into your life and set you on the road to a good relationship. There is somebody out there who is just longing to meet you and form a loving partnership with you. These ideas will help you to find that person or bring them into your life. Some of the suggestions may seem radical but do give them a try - you might be surprised at the result!

1. There is nothing more attractive than somebody who is acting authentically and expressing their emotions from their heart, without imposing them on other people. Try to be yourself when dating - you are perfect as you are.

2. Begin to visualise your ideal partner - you can even make a list of the attributes you desire. Once you have done this and set your mind and heart on meeting that person, put the list aside and trust that they will appear in your life.

3. If you are without a partner, perhaps for a long time, ask yourself why you would want to be alone. What benefits have you associated with being alone - what emotional pain do you think it is protecting you from? Be really honest with yourself - identifying the barriers and working to remove them will transform your dating experience. Once you become 100% willing, a partner will appear!

4. If you are struggling to find somebody or to keep a new partner in your life, ask yourself - "is there somebody I am still holding on to?". If this is the case you will not be fully available to a new partner. Work to let go of past relationships.

5. If you keep meeting the 'wrong sort of people', try to spot the patterns in their behaviour. Are you attracted to them strongly before they start behaving undesirably? Learn to spot these types of people and avoid them, as they trigger your own insecurities and will stop you meeting the right person.

6. Ask a friend to give you honest feedback about your dress sense, make-up and your image. If necessary go with them shopping to spruce up your wardrobe. Being well dressed will make you feel good about yourself.
7. When you meet on a date, concentrate on making eye contact - this is the most powerful way to connect with somebody - but don't overdo it on the first date.

8. On a date talk about the things you love and that interest you. Look for rapport and a sense of connection, not just intellectually but from the heart. Does the person you are dating touch you emotionally in some way - this is always a good sign.

9. Relax into the process of dating - by trying too hard you will come across as needy and put people off. With trust and a sense of self-confidence you can enjoy the dating process, knowing that the right person will appear at the right time.

10. Above all commit to your personal development and grow your self -esteem. Emotional awareness and a feeling of self respect will give you a natural confidence and charisma that will be irresistible to potential partners.

Raghu Natrajan